Sunday, December 21, 2008

SEASONS GREETINGS!

"DECK THE HALLS WITH BOUGHS OF HOLLY, TIS THE SEASON TO BE JOLLY AND BE THANKFUL FOR ALL THAT WE HAVE!"

Ladies and Gentlemen, the year has been long and the times have been hard but we've made it thus far. This year for some of us started with lots of joy and laughter and is sadly ending the opposite way. For others, the year has been sad right through, while others had it happy all year. If you are like me, it had its ups and downs. However, one thing I must say is that through this year I have been able to meet amazing people like yourself who have made a difference whether for better or worse. Additionally, I must make special mention of a few people who I consider to be very "special" to me, even though I may not have told you so before...Schaniqua Riley, Adrian 'De Bubbla' Boyce, Jelissa Daniel, Shane Brathwaite, Cara Howard, Jamal Prescott, Tanya Clarke and the entire Humanities and Education Committee.

I also want to thank my permanent support team, Michelle Scantlebury, Paula Goodridge, Kirt Goodridge, Kirk Cozier, Shonelle Branker, the members of the Tree of Reasoning, Jamar Flemming, Cindy Meredith, Paul Forte, Quincy Yarde and Andre Layne.
Finally, I wish thank my best friend, who even though was miles away was always there when I needed him most, DWAYNE WORRELL.

So to ALL my friends, as we come to another Christmas and the end of another year I give to you from my heart to your home, from my notes to your profile, from my facebook to your inbox.....A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS AND GOD'S RICHEST BLESSINGS THROUGHOUT THE COMING YEAR!

May your sorrows be less, and your joys be more...let nothing but happiness come through your door!I love you all!!!!

LESSONS FOR WOMEN!

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.

Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...................there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies and men as well..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK their choices, and another PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT LADIES..............